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Friday, July 4, 2008

een burning lately?

If so, it might be because of Psychology Today editor-at-large Hara Estroff Marano and her provocative new book "A Nation of Wimps: The High Cost Of Invasive Parenting." In an interview with Time magazine, Marano reports that unprecedented numbers of college students are freaking out over their newfound freedoms and responsibilities. Their parents' anxieties about self-esteem and achievement have left them totally unprepared for the real world.

Once upon a time kids were allowed to eat dirt, learn from their mistakes, and engage in imaginative, unsupervised play. Now they're overmedicated, overscheduled, and over protected from the consequences of their actions.

Sometimes kids just need to be kids, but there's no time for that in today's high-pressure world. We go from "kindergarten prep" to "high school prep" to "college prep" to "workforce prep" to "pine box prep" with no carefree moments. I think some of us get our first treadmill tests while we're still crawling. ("Little Freddie down the street has already learned the warning signs of a cardiac event in three languages. What's taking you so long, Billy?")

How do you know when to loosen the apron strings a little and place some trust in your children? What are the telltale signs that you're doing too much to shield your offspring from danger, failure, and disappointment? Here are a few:

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